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Week 19 – Appearances are Deceptive

Are appearances really deceptive? Aren’t appearances in the eye of the beholder? If you think about it our perspective can be fairly limited. Isn’t that why “man” thought the earth was flat and that the sun revolved around the earth? Turns out we were wrong, Huh? What else could we be wrong about?

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Don’t we use the same limited perspective in our daily lives. We have mountains where there used to be bodies of water and rivers that change course even though we think of all these things as being solid, long-established landmarks. Throughout time cities and civilizations disappear, earthquakes, floods tornadoes, etc… change our landscape. Maybe they’re not as permanent as we assume.

What would happen if we open up our horizons and consider the hugeness, the grandeur, and state of flux of our surroundings, of our world,  our galaxy, our universe? Would we still behave the same?

When I think of the first time I recall someone asking me what I want in life I just remember saying “More!” I wasn’t sure what I wanted at all. I just knew I wanted more. Like most of us I was convinced happiness would coming from having more – more money, more free time, more possessions, more vacations, more friends, more cars, etc… I don’t know where I learned that but I don’t think I was alone.  Obviously “more” isn’t the key to happiness but even if it were, once we get the “more” we thought would make us happy, then we move the goal posts. All the while chasing even more and then more than that. How’s that working out? Hmmm…

It’s taken me a while but I’ve decided to look inside in my search for happiness. It turns out it’s been there all along and it’s full of gratitude, thankfulness, strength, kindness, imagination, love, power and harmony. An..oh yeah, everything else is temporary, deceptive, disappointing and elusive.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, harmonious and happy

Week 13 – Love and Focus

I notice real change in how I deal with people. It’s mostly pretty fun but I’m nowhere near where I want to be. Even so it’s fun to be the observer most of the time. My awareness of my own thoughts and actions has really increased dramatically and I’ve gained a focus that will continue on after this class is over with.

The mindfulness of reserving my opinions, minimizing negative thoughts and emotions and loving all humanity has significantly changed how I interact with people. I’ve even noticed how some people close to me get a little emotional when I talk of love and legacy. In the past those things were understood between us and demonstrated in actions but rarely spoken of. Others have gotten uncomfortable as I talk of making life changing decisions based on my pivotal primary needs and my definite major purpose. It’s slightly amusing but also serious stuff and I’ve come to realize I need to help them understand. That’s really where the legacy starts.

I admit I’m still trying to love all humanity. (Horrible things in the world sometimes make that a difficult concept.) And keeping my opinions to myself all the time has been a daunting challenge. I’ve made great strides here and continue to improve. I’ve been blessed with people in my life who make this challenge complete. Limiting/eliminating negative thoughts has been a great source of progress especially when factoring in the seven second rule. Substituting another thought about God, love or something uplifting has been a big help. Sometimes we aren’t ready to receive some things as blessings but even the New Testament instructs us to be thankful for EVERYTHING (Eph 5:20). I’m a pretty positive, grateful guy and have a knack for finding a silver lining but, everything? I may have to meditate a little longer on that.

It’s really amazing how far I’ve come in fourteen weeks. All the work is paying off and I’m thankful for all the fortuitous coincidences that brought me to the Master Key Mastermind Alliance. I’m really comforted at how my thought life has changed which is where we build our lives. I’ve come full circle with this post as changing our thoughts changes our lives.

We’re half-way though the course and I can’t imagine it being over. My expectations are that this experience will continue to change my life and in turn the lives of those around me. The fuse is lit and I’m ready for blast-off. All the best of everything to all who read this.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Aloha.

Week 9 – Thanksgiving!

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I am truly thankful for so many things that I never even stopped to think about before. This Thanksgiving I noticed a big change in the holiday but maybe it’s all in my head. Great thought…it’s all in my head and that is what has changed! Amen!

I’m the family cook every Thanksgiving for my wife’s mostly immigrant family. It’s their big “American” meal for the year. We feed about 16 so it’s a lot of work and usually comes with some tension and frustration. For example once a year we need three ovens rather than the one we have! We need an air traffic controller to supervise all the dishes that need to go in the oven before we can eat.

This year’s dinner couldn’t have gone smoother. Usually there’s one dish that doesn’t quite turn out perfectly. Not this year. Everything turned out phenomenally. Nothing burned or was undercooked. Everyone magically had the white/dark meat selection they wanted. Crisis averted.

Last night it occurred to me what changed…it’s me! I constantly hear “Do it now!” in my head so more things were done ahead of time. I had no tension or fear that something would go wrong somehow and it didn’t. Usually the last hour before the meal is full of anxiety and some dish doesn’t quite make it to the table on time. This year everything was ready right on time.

I’m in the flow of giving and receiving so my intensions were aligned with my definite major purpose. I was more flexible, patient and accommodating with those trying to help me, more understanding with my children when they interrupted me and much less opinionated as a result of the mental diet. (still working on that.) I may be a work in progress but I see real change and I like it.

In fact it rubbed off on those helping me. I didn’t need to give a lot of direction and now I understand why. I did a much better job of communicating the plan, timing and progress as the day went along. When possible I also helped them help me.

I was tired but not the bone-tired I’ve been in the past. I enjoyed this and was happy to serve. Dare I say it was joyous? It was really fun and I look forward to next year!

“I greet this day with love in my heart.” – The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino

And so I do. Wow!

PS. This Thanksgiving my mind has been occupied by gratitude and appreciation. Of course I’m thankful for all my blessings. I’m especially thankful for all the things that had to occur to put me in this session of the Master Key Mastermind Alliance where I’ve met Mark J, T.F. Davene, my guide Justin and all with MKMMA who have been so helpful. Mahalo!