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Week 24 – Joy, Gratitude and Other Thoughts

Mahalo from the man in the mirror

Every day is time to look that guy in the face and be honest with him. Mostly we’re buds but there are days he tells me to get my butt in gear – lovingly of course. He and I are in a long-term relationship so we try to be kind and considerate to each other while being accountable. We’re both thankful for the experience and looking forward to our future together.

What did I learn from going through the Master Key Experience? I learned That I have a lot to learn but this is a great start to the journey. I learned the value of Self-mastery over the expectation that some guru holds all the secrets. Some of the value tidbits to whet your appetite

Being the observer

Avoiding Rejecting negativity

Knowing my primary purpose

Focusing on what’s important

Doing my best

 

Funny things I learned about Mark Januszewski

I identify with Mark J more than I thought I would…which is part of his approach.

He’s a very bright guy while also an “everyman”. He teaches common sense from the perspective of someone with extensive education and experience.

He and I both were fortunate enough to have the existential, life-defining experience of being single dads bringing up children. Nothing is ever the same afterward.

We both love the Pittsburgh Steelers (or did I remember this wrong?)

We both love to apply a little bit of the needle now and then.

We both  were blessed to sell  photocopiers – Mark in the 1970s and me in the 1980s. It seems we had similar teachers from the stories he tells.

 

Love the teachers

Gurus love wisdom but they teach it like they’re the first one to think of these things. In truth there have been many teachers, philosophers and sages through they years who imparted these wise thoughts. Just goes to show you that gurus aren’t always the font of all wisdom. Mark has brought us Emerson, Emmet Fox, Haanel, John Wooden, Og Mandino among others. Pretty good faculty if you ask me.

 

A big Mahalo!

My heartfelt thanks goes to Mark J, T.F. Davene, Trish, Derek, Heather, Andrea, Dayna, my guide Justin Leader  and your staff for pushing, pulling, cajoling and guiding me through this experience. It was fun, difficult, joyful, demanding, energizing and exhausting at various times. I would certainly do it again and fully expect to. There’s no way I can truly express my gratitude other to say, Mahalo! I have come a long way and also realize I have much to learn.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

 

Week 20 – My Franklin Makeover

For me Week 20 is forgiveness week. That means I need to; 1) be an observer and track examples of forgiveness around me in my life, and 2) observe my own acts of forgiveness. It’s really interesting how when we focus on something, then we see it all around us. Forgiveness isn’t on the original list for this exercise but it’s the one thing I wrote in as you can never have too much forgiveness in your life.

One of our teachers, Davene, tells the story that when she bought a Honda Element suddenly she saw them everywhere even when she hadn’t much noticed them before…And she had even sold Hondas professionally.

Suddenly I noticed forgiveness everywhere particularly in my family. It made me think of how grateful I am for the mere opportunity to forgive. It’s one of those things that truly helps me as much or more than the person I forgive. It also made me think how grateful I am for all the forgiveness shown to me past, present future.

There have been times in my life when I probably wouldn’t have forgiven me if I was in another’s shoes but I’ll be darned if they didn’t forgive me anyway. I’m thankful for that and try to pay it forward.

That brings up one of life’s most pivotal issues. Once someone else has forgiven us, does that automatically mean we can forgive ourselves? I think not. At least I haven’t always been able to…at least not right away. It’s not that easy – we know acted poorly, we apologize, and the other party forgives us so…why is it so difficult to forgive ourselves?

The great thing about forgiveness is the ripples it creates. Sometimes one of those ripples sneaks up on you out of the blue and Wow! Sometimes you can’t even see them but you know they’re there. What a feeling!

The truth is we have nothing to lose by forgiving and everything to gain. It can also have a positive effect on your health.

This is the end of this post. Will you forgive me? 😀

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy

Week 17 HJ – Hero’s Journey Week

Some random thoughts on the journey…

Sometimes I have to be reminded I’m the hero in my own journey. I think it’s because some of us have never thought of ourselves as heroic…until now. There’s a real courage in showing up every day and doing your best – your absolute best, and then coming back and doing that again the next day, and the next – even when you falter. Courage.

I can’t express how thankful I am to have stumbled upon the Master Key Experience. It has reawakened an enthusiasm I really haven’t fully felt in quite a while. It has charged my imagination with possibility, even the inspiration to pursue dreams long forgotten or never completely developed.

I’m also thankful for the associations I’ve built on the journey. It’s really great how people of a like mind can encourage, support and understand each other. Shouldn’t our daily lives be like this? I don’t see why not. There’s also a real camaraderie. Even though we haven’t met in person we’re sharing an experience none of us will forget.

Of course we’re each on our own hero’s journey…or at least we should be. If not then what are we doing? leading our dull, dreary, disappointing lives of quiet desperation? Anyone who ventured into the Master Key Experience discovered pretty soon that the train would be leaving the station. Those not willing to step on board and reach for a hand up would be lovingly left at the station until the next departure.

There are plenty of real obstacles in life. Why create or imagine more? Some of us just need to give ourselves permission to succeed…at whatever the objective is, whether that’s completing today’s to-do list or climbing a mountain. Permission granted!

I just can’t imagine the ripples but I try. The thought of all the possibilities sometimes really inspires me. What if some day I open the door for a woman with children in tow and her son takes that example and turns it into something special? What if that gift card I left at Tim Horton’s brightens someone’s day? What if that phone call cheered someone up? There’s really no what if about it. The ripples are real. We just can’t predict how far they’ll go. So be kind, be grateful, call a friend. It will help you too.

Mahalo!

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving harmonious and happy.

 

Week 17 – Permission You Say?

approval

Here’s an idea! Let’s allow ourselves the benefit of our hard work and effort. Let’s stop sabatoging ourselves.

Did you ever wonder why some seem to take the same actions, say the same things, read the same books as others’ and then watch them turn it into a success while some “spin their wheels”?

Psychologically we need to give ourselves permission to succeed, whatever that means to that person. It’s OK to be more successful than your siblings, your parents or someone you look up to. It’s even OK to achieve more than you even planned or expected. It’s OK to give yourself permission. Your creator already has.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying everyone has to be a billionaire or an astronaut to be a success. Each individual’s definition of success is up to them and that’s exactly the point. Whether their desire is improved relationships, family, acknowledgement, service to others, financial rewards or something else the definition of success is up to each of us.

Somehow some of us sabotage ourselves, can’t get over the hump, and always seem on the brink of our own success. Crazy? Maybe not. Maybe all we have to do it allow ourselves the success that we’ve hesitated to achieve and then claim it. If others seem to access it and achieve it what’s stopping us? Usually the biggest obstacle is ourselves and we know it, don’t we?

I think many of us know what’s happening on some level. I know I’ve heard people say, “If I could just get out of my own way” Or “I can’t seem to put it together”. Just when they’re on the verge of the happiness and success they dream of, somehow they blow it; somehow something doesn’t quite go right.

At points in the past I’ve been one of these people. Not anymore! I have permission – from my creator and myself. I claim it. You claim yours!

I’m not saying it’s easy. If it were, everyone would do it. I’m saying it’s worth doing. What we focus on grows. If we focus on our failures, what we lack or how the pretty girl doesn’t like us, that’s what will grow. Focus on successes, gratitude for all the abundance we’re blessed with and all who love us.

Give yourself permission. Claim it. Focus.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Mahalo!

Week 15 – Insight and Insights

Insight

-I love what Haanel says in lesson 15 of the Master Key about Insight;

  • It must be exercised,
  • It enables us to be prepared for the obstacles which we shall meet, and
  • It’s absolutely essential for the development of any great achievement

As my insight needs exercised, here are some insights of mine.

-I’m always a bit bemused at how profoundly the simplest common sense idea strikes me. I’m a reasonably intelligent human being. Why does, “Keep the main thing, the main thing.” sound different to me when I hear it from Mark Januszewski? Yet it does and it is. I now hear it in my brain and hear myself saying it to others. Hmmmm… Keep them coming Mark!

-It’s Week 15 of this Master Key Experience and I don’t know where the time has gone. Although I’ve developed new habits and reduced/eliminated others, I still spend a fair amount of my time doing the tasks and working to improve. It seems the more I learn, the more I want to learn.

Insight 2

-There was a time when I was up to date on all current events, the local police blotter, the political landscape, every tiny detail of what my co-workers were assigned to and many other “very important” things that were going on around me. You see I’m kind of an information hound. Through the changes brought on by the Master Key Experience I’ve learned to focus on the things that bring be closer to my Definite Major Purpose

-Happily, the changes in me are evident to me even though my old habits pop up from time-to-time. Even though I’m still working on some I still see progress. I can see that this will now be a lifelong process for me. It’s embedded into everything I do.

-I’ve become much more observant of what happens around me, my reactions, my thoughts. and my attitudes. Because of that my “gatekeeper” has become highly vigilant and rejects poisonous thoughts at the entrance. Any that linger there are dealt with using the law of substitution. I other words, a positive, pleasant or uplifting thought is substituted right away as we can’t think of two things at once.

-I’ve come a long way and have a long way to go. I admire how far my fellow travelers have come. They’ve inspired me and befriended me. There’s no doubt I’m better for the experience and I get better every day. Thank you!

-I’m thankful for all who’ve crossed my path

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Week 9 – Thanksgiving!

thankfulnesss cornicopia

I am truly thankful for so many things that I never even stopped to think about before. This Thanksgiving I noticed a big change in the holiday but maybe it’s all in my head. Great thought…it’s all in my head and that is what has changed! Amen!

I’m the family cook every Thanksgiving for my wife’s mostly immigrant family. It’s their big “American” meal for the year. We feed about 16 so it’s a lot of work and usually comes with some tension and frustration. For example once a year we need three ovens rather than the one we have! We need an air traffic controller to supervise all the dishes that need to go in the oven before we can eat.

This year’s dinner couldn’t have gone smoother. Usually there’s one dish that doesn’t quite turn out perfectly. Not this year. Everything turned out phenomenally. Nothing burned or was undercooked. Everyone magically had the white/dark meat selection they wanted. Crisis averted.

Last night it occurred to me what changed…it’s me! I constantly hear “Do it now!” in my head so more things were done ahead of time. I had no tension or fear that something would go wrong somehow and it didn’t. Usually the last hour before the meal is full of anxiety and some dish doesn’t quite make it to the table on time. This year everything was ready right on time.

I’m in the flow of giving and receiving so my intensions were aligned with my definite major purpose. I was more flexible, patient and accommodating with those trying to help me, more understanding with my children when they interrupted me and much less opinionated as a result of the mental diet. (still working on that.) I may be a work in progress but I see real change and I like it.

In fact it rubbed off on those helping me. I didn’t need to give a lot of direction and now I understand why. I did a much better job of communicating the plan, timing and progress as the day went along. When possible I also helped them help me.

I was tired but not the bone-tired I’ve been in the past. I enjoyed this and was happy to serve. Dare I say it was joyous? It was really fun and I look forward to next year!

“I greet this day with love in my heart.” – The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino

And so I do. Wow!

PS. This Thanksgiving my mind has been occupied by gratitude and appreciation. Of course I’m thankful for all my blessings. I’m especially thankful for all the things that had to occur to put me in this session of the Master Key Mastermind Alliance where I’ve met Mark J, T.F. Davene, my guide Justin and all with MKMMA who have been so helpful. Mahalo!