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Week 19 – Appearances are Deceptive

Are appearances really deceptive? Aren’t appearances in the eye of the beholder? If you think about it our perspective can be fairly limited. Isn’t that why “man” thought the earth was flat and that the sun revolved around the earth? Turns out we were wrong, Huh? What else could we be wrong about?

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Don’t we use the same limited perspective in our daily lives. We have mountains where there used to be bodies of water and rivers that change course even though we think of all these things as being solid, long-established landmarks. Throughout time cities and civilizations disappear, earthquakes, floods tornadoes, etc… change our landscape. Maybe they’re not as permanent as we assume.

What would happen if we open up our horizons and consider the hugeness, the grandeur, and state of flux of our surroundings, of our world,  our galaxy, our universe? Would we still behave the same?

When I think of the first time I recall someone asking me what I want in life I just remember saying “More!” I wasn’t sure what I wanted at all. I just knew I wanted more. Like most of us I was convinced happiness would coming from having more – more money, more free time, more possessions, more vacations, more friends, more cars, etc… I don’t know where I learned that but I don’t think I was alone.  Obviously “more” isn’t the key to happiness but even if it were, once we get the “more” we thought would make us happy, then we move the goal posts. All the while chasing even more and then more than that. How’s that working out? Hmmm…

It’s taken me a while but I’ve decided to look inside in my search for happiness. It turns out it’s been there all along and it’s full of gratitude, thankfulness, strength, kindness, imagination, love, power and harmony. An..oh yeah, everything else is temporary, deceptive, disappointing and elusive.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, harmonious and happy

Week 18 – What Would You Do Next?

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Here’s a mind bending question put to members of the Master Key Experience this week.

What would the person I intend to become do next?

Think about that for a second…Huge question, right?

First, think about the person you intend to become – confident, smart, talented, accomplished, likeable, caring, honest, funny, considerate…and whatever other attributes you intend to become. Then think about all the decisions you encounter on a daily basis. What if that person were making each of those decisions. Wouldn’t the future, better you, make better decisions? Of course they would! So why not start now?

If you use your imagination it gets to be a little bit fun. For example I imagine different versions of my future me will come along in 5 minutes, an hour, a day, a year and ten years from now respectively. I imagine growing levels of happiness, peace, success and fulfillment along the way. I have to humbly admit the person I intend to become is pretty awesome!

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My future self is also a fun guy who takes life seriously but doesn’t take himself too seriously. He believes in God but also believes God has a sense of humor. In fact he depends on that.

He has his personal priority needs in order. In other words he’s really centered on what’s important in his life. He knows his definite major purpose and his actions go to accomplish that purpose.

I’m not always 100% sure what that person would do next but when I stop to consider the question in a moment of decision, that decision is forever affected… and so am I. Can you imagine the cumulative effect of upgrading hundreds, if not thousands of decisions daily? By the way, have you read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson? If not, you should.

I can’t wait to meet this person I intend to become…but I know I will.

I also invite you to ask yourself the question above and to check out the Master Key Experience. It truly is a life-changing and life affirming experience which I highly recommend. If you have any questions just let me know.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy

Week 17 HJ – Hero’s Journey Week

Some random thoughts on the journey…

Sometimes I have to be reminded I’m the hero in my own journey. I think it’s because some of us have never thought of ourselves as heroic…until now. There’s a real courage in showing up every day and doing your best – your absolute best, and then coming back and doing that again the next day, and the next – even when you falter. Courage.

I can’t express how thankful I am to have stumbled upon the Master Key Experience. It has reawakened an enthusiasm I really haven’t fully felt in quite a while. It has charged my imagination with possibility, even the inspiration to pursue dreams long forgotten or never completely developed.

I’m also thankful for the associations I’ve built on the journey. It’s really great how people of a like mind can encourage, support and understand each other. Shouldn’t our daily lives be like this? I don’t see why not. There’s also a real camaraderie. Even though we haven’t met in person we’re sharing an experience none of us will forget.

Of course we’re each on our own hero’s journey…or at least we should be. If not then what are we doing? leading our dull, dreary, disappointing lives of quiet desperation? Anyone who ventured into the Master Key Experience discovered pretty soon that the train would be leaving the station. Those not willing to step on board and reach for a hand up would be lovingly left at the station until the next departure.

There are plenty of real obstacles in life. Why create or imagine more? Some of us just need to give ourselves permission to succeed…at whatever the objective is, whether that’s completing today’s to-do list or climbing a mountain. Permission granted!

I just can’t imagine the ripples but I try. The thought of all the possibilities sometimes really inspires me. What if some day I open the door for a woman with children in tow and her son takes that example and turns it into something special? What if that gift card I left at Tim Horton’s brightens someone’s day? What if that phone call cheered someone up? There’s really no what if about it. The ripples are real. We just can’t predict how far they’ll go. So be kind, be grateful, call a friend. It will help you too.

Mahalo!

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving harmonious and happy.

 

Week 17 – Permission You Say?

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Here’s an idea! Let’s allow ourselves the benefit of our hard work and effort. Let’s stop sabatoging ourselves.

Did you ever wonder why some seem to take the same actions, say the same things, read the same books as others’ and then watch them turn it into a success while some “spin their wheels”?

Psychologically we need to give ourselves permission to succeed, whatever that means to that person. It’s OK to be more successful than your siblings, your parents or someone you look up to. It’s even OK to achieve more than you even planned or expected. It’s OK to give yourself permission. Your creator already has.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying everyone has to be a billionaire or an astronaut to be a success. Each individual’s definition of success is up to them and that’s exactly the point. Whether their desire is improved relationships, family, acknowledgement, service to others, financial rewards or something else the definition of success is up to each of us.

Somehow some of us sabotage ourselves, can’t get over the hump, and always seem on the brink of our own success. Crazy? Maybe not. Maybe all we have to do it allow ourselves the success that we’ve hesitated to achieve and then claim it. If others seem to access it and achieve it what’s stopping us? Usually the biggest obstacle is ourselves and we know it, don’t we?

I think many of us know what’s happening on some level. I know I’ve heard people say, “If I could just get out of my own way” Or “I can’t seem to put it together”. Just when they’re on the verge of the happiness and success they dream of, somehow they blow it; somehow something doesn’t quite go right.

At points in the past I’ve been one of these people. Not anymore! I have permission – from my creator and myself. I claim it. You claim yours!

I’m not saying it’s easy. If it were, everyone would do it. I’m saying it’s worth doing. What we focus on grows. If we focus on our failures, what we lack or how the pretty girl doesn’t like us, that’s what will grow. Focus on successes, gratitude for all the abundance we’re blessed with and all who love us.

Give yourself permission. Claim it. Focus.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Mahalo!

Week 14 – Our Thoughts of Inspiration and October Sky

October Sky – I loved this movie and watched it with my eight and eleven year olds. I really wanted them to see an example of real inspiration, persistence and commitment. This true story is about a student in a West Virginia coal town during the 1950s. His teacher sparks his imagination with thoughts of rockets and winning a science competition. Of course he meets resistance at every turn from other students, his father and even his principal. It seems he and his team were the only ones not entirely convinced they were predestined for the coal mines. Little did others know of their determination. It was a real heroes’ journey ala Joseph Campbell. Several of the characters were at different points in their own hero’s journey and persevered nonetheless. The outcomes were inspiring – especially since it’s a true story. It’s not a “perfect” story where everyone lives happily ever after as no one is exempt from the trials and tribulations of life. But it is an inspiring story of vision, determination and perseverance – all brought about by a thought.

It also demonstrated to me again that thoughts come first. Our ideas create our reality. Everything  begins with a thought and always has. From the Empire State Building to the great wall of China, each started with a thought, with a concept. Even third grade math is a concept that needs to be mastered and the connecting thread is our thoughts.

Recently I had a talk with my eight year old about how our thoughts can help us or hurt us. She was convinced at the ripe old age of eight that she’s just no good at math. The conversation was nothing revolutionary – just a father helping his daughter over a rough patch. I explained that if she thinks she’s bad at math, she will be and if she thinks she doesn’t have friends, she won’t have any. It was an “aha” moment for her and it helped me too. There’s nothing like the way an eight year old looks at dad when they realize he’s their biggest supporter. Then the coaching and practice began. She won’t always be eight but I don’t think either of us will forget that for a while.  I can’t wait to watch her hero’s journey. It’s going to be special.

It’s heartening to see the difference in her confidence as she’s realized she can be as good as she wants to be. It’s reinforces a really important lesson for me too. I too can be as good as I want to be…and I want to be great!

I’m whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Week 13 – Love and Focus

I notice real change in how I deal with people. It’s mostly pretty fun but I’m nowhere near where I want to be. Even so it’s fun to be the observer most of the time. My awareness of my own thoughts and actions has really increased dramatically and I’ve gained a focus that will continue on after this class is over with.

The mindfulness of reserving my opinions, minimizing negative thoughts and emotions and loving all humanity has significantly changed how I interact with people. I’ve even noticed how some people close to me get a little emotional when I talk of love and legacy. In the past those things were understood between us and demonstrated in actions but rarely spoken of. Others have gotten uncomfortable as I talk of making life changing decisions based on my pivotal primary needs and my definite major purpose. It’s slightly amusing but also serious stuff and I’ve come to realize I need to help them understand. That’s really where the legacy starts.

I admit I’m still trying to love all humanity. (Horrible things in the world sometimes make that a difficult concept.) And keeping my opinions to myself all the time has been a daunting challenge. I’ve made great strides here and continue to improve. I’ve been blessed with people in my life who make this challenge complete. Limiting/eliminating negative thoughts has been a great source of progress especially when factoring in the seven second rule. Substituting another thought about God, love or something uplifting has been a big help. Sometimes we aren’t ready to receive some things as blessings but even the New Testament instructs us to be thankful for EVERYTHING (Eph 5:20). I’m a pretty positive, grateful guy and have a knack for finding a silver lining but, everything? I may have to meditate a little longer on that.

It’s really amazing how far I’ve come in fourteen weeks. All the work is paying off and I’m thankful for all the fortuitous coincidences that brought me to the Master Key Mastermind Alliance. I’m really comforted at how my thought life has changed which is where we build our lives. I’ve come full circle with this post as changing our thoughts changes our lives.

We’re half-way though the course and I can’t imagine it being over. My expectations are that this experience will continue to change my life and in turn the lives of those around me. The fuse is lit and I’m ready for blast-off. All the best of everything to all who read this.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Aloha.

Week 5 – Some Things I Think I Think (That’s My Opinion!)

Opinions are one thing I have plenty of but I really thought I’d be able to control them throughout the week. All I needed to do it slow down and insert a thoughtful pause before responding, right? This turned out to be easier in the planning stage than it was to carry out. Part of the learning here was that it took real effort to hold my tongue and/or converse without voicing my opinion. It got better throughout the week but I’m far from accomplished on this point. Once again a work in progress. And progress I will.

Sometimes I was half-way through asserting my opinion before I realized I had crossed that line. I got a little chuckle out of how quickly it happened without me thinking about it. At first I didn’t want to stop. My opinions are good and they’re well thought out, I said to myself. Then I thought, isn’t that an opinion? Hmmmm…Even funnier was how I later tried to backtrack off my opinions once I realized what I had done. It didn’t help but it was funny.

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My reactions were much more constructive in other cases. Soon I was able to control my visceral responses when circumstances may have prompted an animated response full of my thoughts on a multitude of matters. A look, a wry grin or sometimes a constructive redirection of the conversation all did wonders. Then it hit me; how much mental and physical energy had I wasted voicing and debating my opinions and those of others? To what end? Those conversations, whether personal, work related, political or philosophical usually ended in predictable ways because they always followed the same patterns. I’ve found that energy is much more useful focused on positive accomplishments. I knew it in my head but that’s still an “Ah-ha” moment for me.

And another thing; when I didn’t voice my opinions those conversations changed. I asked more questions and I listened more. I started to realize the outcomes were changing too, and good ways. We might be on to something here. This is a behavior worthy of becoming a full-fledged habit so it’s staying in my quiver.

I’m excited to see the learning process in action. The progress this week was noticeable and I like it.

“If I must be a slave to habit let me be a slave to good habits.” – Og Mandino – The Greatest Salesman in the World.

Can’t wait for week 6! Giddyup!

Week 3 – Add Patience… Then Add Some More

I’ve always considered myself a patient person but have been shown over and over I could be even more patient. I’ve had some great teachers. For example my children have taught me well. Every time I thought I was a patient, understand dad, they found a way to strain my last nerve or do something completely unexpected. That education continues and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m truly blessed to have four wonderful, healthy children and I’m grateful to have such great teachers and I’ve learned to enjoy the ride. They’ve also provided me with unlimited opportunities to “be the observer” and consider my responses. Sometimes the observer gets lots of work!

The Master Keys has also shown me I can be more patient, that faster isn’t always better and that I benefit by taking the time to focus and energize my readings. In The Greatest Salesman in the World, Og Mandino writes, “…I must practice the art of patience for nature never acts in haste.” And so I practice. I get the notion we never reach perfection in this area but I can certainly be better…a lot better. And so I am.

I noticed myself rushing through when reading Scroll 1 in TGSITW and then I came upon that sentence about practicing patience. I’ve read this chapter over seventy times before but this time it was like I could hear a car, breaks locked, screeching to a halt in my head. “Slow down, take it in and feel it.” the little voice said. And so I did…and Wow, it was like I’m reading a new book all over! I’ve also slowed down reading my Definite Major Purpose and my Blueprint Builder. Boy am I feeling it now. I may need a roof top to shout from sometimes!

A wise man once said, “We don’t know what we don’t know.” and I’m in the Master Keys Mastermind Alliance to learn. And learn I have. It’s been busy and I’ve had to drop some of my valued time wasters to get the work done but I’m better for it. For the first few days I tried to squeeze it all in so I could get all my assignments done. That made me rush through things and hurt my focus. Lesson learned. One of many and more to come I’m sure. Thanks to Mark J., TF Davene and their staff for being benevolent dictators. It’s what I needed when I needed it. Mahalo!