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Week 1 (2015) – What a difference a year makes!!!

As I audit this year’s iteration of the MKE, it’s easier to be the observer. I recognize, all too well, the angst, uncertainty and frustration as I read the alliances. Remember, this too will pass. I also recognize the buds of inspiration and discovery as people mastermind together. It’s impressive to see and reinforces that it’s always there. That’s what will take over in time. We just have to let it flow…because it will.

Trust the system, trust your guide, trust yourself.

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It’s that simple and that hard. Do your absolute best. Complete the tasks. Be persistent. Be present. Will everything go according to your heart’s desire? NO! Will you question thing? Yes! Let it go. Wash, rinse, repeat. Relax, it’s all good. You’re doing great already!

There will be times when you think, Hey that’s not right, I don’t remember that, I can’t do it. In reality you already know the answers. If you miss something, get on it. Get it done. Do it now! And yes you can! And your righteous indignation? Let it go! You deserve more than righteous indignation. You deserve the real prize!

It’s already in you. All power is from within. You got this!

Giddyup!

Week 24 – Joy, Gratitude and Other Thoughts

Mahalo from the man in the mirror

Every day is time to look that guy in the face and be honest with him. Mostly we’re buds but there are days he tells me to get my butt in gear – lovingly of course. He and I are in a long-term relationship so we try to be kind and considerate to each other while being accountable. We’re both thankful for the experience and looking forward to our future together.

What did I learn from going through the Master Key Experience? I learned That I have a lot to learn but this is a great start to the journey. I learned the value of Self-mastery over the expectation that some guru holds all the secrets. Some of the value tidbits to whet your appetite

Being the observer

Avoiding Rejecting negativity

Knowing my primary purpose

Focusing on what’s important

Doing my best

 

Funny things I learned about Mark Januszewski

I identify with Mark J more than I thought I would…which is part of his approach.

He’s a very bright guy while also an “everyman”. He teaches common sense from the perspective of someone with extensive education and experience.

He and I both were fortunate enough to have the existential, life-defining experience of being single dads bringing up children. Nothing is ever the same afterward.

We both love the Pittsburgh Steelers (or did I remember this wrong?)

We both love to apply a little bit of the needle now and then.

We both  were blessed to sell  photocopiers – Mark in the 1970s and me in the 1980s. It seems we had similar teachers from the stories he tells.

 

Love the teachers

Gurus love wisdom but they teach it like they’re the first one to think of these things. In truth there have been many teachers, philosophers and sages through they years who imparted these wise thoughts. Just goes to show you that gurus aren’t always the font of all wisdom. Mark has brought us Emerson, Emmet Fox, Haanel, John Wooden, Og Mandino among others. Pretty good faculty if you ask me.

 

A big Mahalo!

My heartfelt thanks goes to Mark J, T.F. Davene, Trish, Derek, Heather, Andrea, Dayna, my guide Justin Leader  and your staff for pushing, pulling, cajoling and guiding me through this experience. It was fun, difficult, joyful, demanding, energizing and exhausting at various times. I would certainly do it again and fully expect to. There’s no way I can truly express my gratitude other to say, Mahalo! I have come a long way and also realize I have much to learn.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

 

Week 23 – Be The Observer

“What does this even mean?” you may ask. It’s a good question and I thought I knew the answer. After all I had studied about it and listened to lectures and audios on the topic for the last six months. I really thought I had this one nailed.

To me it meant we need to take a step back mentally and observe our life, interactions, reactions, circumstances, etc…as if from a bird’s eye view. The intention is to be better informed, add perspective, insight and discernment to our lives. As a result we’re able to make better decisions, improve our reactions, be kinder, more generous, more patient and more thoughtful. Sounds great, yes?

All of the things above are accurate and I was comfortable that I completely understood the concept, and then it happened…my eight year old blurted out something that struck me like a bolt of lightning as eight year olds are want to do…Out of the mouths of babes, right?

She didn’t even know that she made such a huge point. She said, when we watch something it’s better if we can also hear it. I thought, “Wow! How True! Why can’t I be the observer with all my senses?” In truth we might not be able to observe with all five  senses at the same time but why not observe with all that apply in a given situation. Why just watch what’s going on? Why not see it, touch it, taste it, smell it and hear it as the situation dictates? Won’t we better informed as a result?

If being the observer is the amazing tool I believe to be, won’t it be all the more impactful if I go all in? Of course the answer is a resounding YES! Using all our senses to observe life makes complete sense to me – thanks to an eight year old code named KYB. Mahalo!

This experience is also a great example of being the observer – taking that step back and observing your life even as you live it.. Being the observer put me in the position to become a better observer. How cool is that? And that’s the beauty of it. It all builds on itself if you let it and the sky’s the limit!

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Week 21 – It’s a Miracle!!!

What’s a miracle? – In truth the miraculous ranges from the seemingly minute to the truly large-scale. One minor miracle is that this late blog post ever was made :-) (That may be a bit of an exaggeration…it’s just a little later than I had hoped.)

Really, what do we expect – the parting of the Red Sea? Do they have to be huge? Have you ever considered how miraculous our every breath is? our very existence? It’s true!

Have you ever really considered the amazing fact that each and every breath we take sustains our life in the moment – but just in that moment? We must draw a new breath regularly or the tenuous miracle of life could leave us. Doesn’t that mean each breath is truly a life-giving miracle? What about the miracle that oxygen is filtered from each breath and added to our bloodstream while CO2 is removed. How about the amazing pump that circulates our blood uninterrupted from our birth until death carrying the oxygen to all parts of our body and the Co2 back to our lungs for exhale?

Have you ever considered what it takes for you to swallow, digest food or shrug your shoulders?

This isn’t to minimize the miracle of your birth, our planet, the atmosphere, or the heart-tugging smile of a child.

So if everything is a miracle aren’t you? Aren’t I?

How many people reading this have survived life threatening medical issues? Every sunrise is a miracle, right? is that just because you were sick? Weren’t they always a miracle?

I wonder why we don’t appreciate the wonder around us, the wonder that IS us?

It’s really easy, and maybe closer to our nature, to worry about tomorrow, wonder why we didn’t get the promotion or seethe at our neighbor because their dog did his business in our yard. But why would we do any of these things when we’re surrounded by the miraculous? In truth aren’t these all a waste of our time and energy?

An amazing quote is attributed to one of the world’s greatest known scientists. Consider the fact this is from a man of science.
Albert Einstein — ‘There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.’

I realize this post has more questions than answers. That’s because I don’t purport to have answers. Just suggesting a topic. Go ahead…discuss.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Week 18 – What Would You Do Next?

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Here’s a mind bending question put to members of the Master Key Experience this week.

What would the person I intend to become do next?

Think about that for a second…Huge question, right?

First, think about the person you intend to become – confident, smart, talented, accomplished, likeable, caring, honest, funny, considerate…and whatever other attributes you intend to become. Then think about all the decisions you encounter on a daily basis. What if that person were making each of those decisions. Wouldn’t the future, better you, make better decisions? Of course they would! So why not start now?

If you use your imagination it gets to be a little bit fun. For example I imagine different versions of my future me will come along in 5 minutes, an hour, a day, a year and ten years from now respectively. I imagine growing levels of happiness, peace, success and fulfillment along the way. I have to humbly admit the person I intend to become is pretty awesome!

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My future self is also a fun guy who takes life seriously but doesn’t take himself too seriously. He believes in God but also believes God has a sense of humor. In fact he depends on that.

He has his personal priority needs in order. In other words he’s really centered on what’s important in his life. He knows his definite major purpose and his actions go to accomplish that purpose.

I’m not always 100% sure what that person would do next but when I stop to consider the question in a moment of decision, that decision is forever affected… and so am I. Can you imagine the cumulative effect of upgrading hundreds, if not thousands of decisions daily? By the way, have you read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson? If not, you should.

I can’t wait to meet this person I intend to become…but I know I will.

I also invite you to ask yourself the question above and to check out the Master Key Experience. It truly is a life-changing and life affirming experience which I highly recommend. If you have any questions just let me know.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy

Week 17 HJ – Hero’s Journey Week

Some random thoughts on the journey…

Sometimes I have to be reminded I’m the hero in my own journey. I think it’s because some of us have never thought of ourselves as heroic…until now. There’s a real courage in showing up every day and doing your best – your absolute best, and then coming back and doing that again the next day, and the next – even when you falter. Courage.

I can’t express how thankful I am to have stumbled upon the Master Key Experience. It has reawakened an enthusiasm I really haven’t fully felt in quite a while. It has charged my imagination with possibility, even the inspiration to pursue dreams long forgotten or never completely developed.

I’m also thankful for the associations I’ve built on the journey. It’s really great how people of a like mind can encourage, support and understand each other. Shouldn’t our daily lives be like this? I don’t see why not. There’s also a real camaraderie. Even though we haven’t met in person we’re sharing an experience none of us will forget.

Of course we’re each on our own hero’s journey…or at least we should be. If not then what are we doing? leading our dull, dreary, disappointing lives of quiet desperation? Anyone who ventured into the Master Key Experience discovered pretty soon that the train would be leaving the station. Those not willing to step on board and reach for a hand up would be lovingly left at the station until the next departure.

There are plenty of real obstacles in life. Why create or imagine more? Some of us just need to give ourselves permission to succeed…at whatever the objective is, whether that’s completing today’s to-do list or climbing a mountain. Permission granted!

I just can’t imagine the ripples but I try. The thought of all the possibilities sometimes really inspires me. What if some day I open the door for a woman with children in tow and her son takes that example and turns it into something special? What if that gift card I left at Tim Horton’s brightens someone’s day? What if that phone call cheered someone up? There’s really no what if about it. The ripples are real. We just can’t predict how far they’ll go. So be kind, be grateful, call a friend. It will help you too.

Mahalo!

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving harmonious and happy.

 

Week 17 – Permission You Say?

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Here’s an idea! Let’s allow ourselves the benefit of our hard work and effort. Let’s stop sabatoging ourselves.

Did you ever wonder why some seem to take the same actions, say the same things, read the same books as others’ and then watch them turn it into a success while some “spin their wheels”?

Psychologically we need to give ourselves permission to succeed, whatever that means to that person. It’s OK to be more successful than your siblings, your parents or someone you look up to. It’s even OK to achieve more than you even planned or expected. It’s OK to give yourself permission. Your creator already has.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying everyone has to be a billionaire or an astronaut to be a success. Each individual’s definition of success is up to them and that’s exactly the point. Whether their desire is improved relationships, family, acknowledgement, service to others, financial rewards or something else the definition of success is up to each of us.

Somehow some of us sabotage ourselves, can’t get over the hump, and always seem on the brink of our own success. Crazy? Maybe not. Maybe all we have to do it allow ourselves the success that we’ve hesitated to achieve and then claim it. If others seem to access it and achieve it what’s stopping us? Usually the biggest obstacle is ourselves and we know it, don’t we?

I think many of us know what’s happening on some level. I know I’ve heard people say, “If I could just get out of my own way” Or “I can’t seem to put it together”. Just when they’re on the verge of the happiness and success they dream of, somehow they blow it; somehow something doesn’t quite go right.

At points in the past I’ve been one of these people. Not anymore! I have permission – from my creator and myself. I claim it. You claim yours!

I’m not saying it’s easy. If it were, everyone would do it. I’m saying it’s worth doing. What we focus on grows. If we focus on our failures, what we lack or how the pretty girl doesn’t like us, that’s what will grow. Focus on successes, gratitude for all the abundance we’re blessed with and all who love us.

Give yourself permission. Claim it. Focus.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Mahalo!

Week 16 – Kindnesses in Kind

It’s Kindness week!

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Shouldn’t every week be kindness week? That’s how a young lady working in the drive through window at Tim Horton’s responded after I told her it’s Kindness week. I laughed but she was right of course. Every week SHOULD be Kindness week so why isn’t it? Every day we’re surrounded by family, friends, co-workers and others we see on a regular basis. Is a little kindness too much to ask? Seems like we have plenty of opportunities. Even if we miss most of them we could still perform some act of kindness several times a day.

I consider myself a pretty considerate, patient and kind person but I wondered what people would say if I asked. I thought about that a while and decided not to ask. People are to kind to say no, right? Instead I decided to ramp up my observer mode and watch their reactions as I made special efforts to be helpful and kind. What a hoot! I think I actually surprised some people like store clerks and those in the drive-thru who got free food courtesy of my gift card. Others like my youngest daughters took it more in stride. They liked when daddy made their bed every day.

It all worked so well I wonder why we don’t do this all the time? I don’t recall one negative reaction. Usually people were a little surprised and always pleased that another human being took a couple seconds to be kind for no particular reason. I admit I enjoyed it too. It’s really fun and more than a little heartwarming to brightening someone else’s day.

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Is it really so difficult? No. Physically demanding? No. Emotionally dangerous? No.  It just requires us to give up our naval-gazing a bit, to change our focus from ourselves to those around us. Once we look up and notice the world around us things get pretty amazing. There are people in the other cars stuck in traffic. I wonder what would happen if I let one of them change lanes in front of me…The sunset still looks amazing from my car. And we had a great talk about that on the way home from school. In fact sneaking in a little more daddy time is a kindness for me. Who says I shouldn’t be kind to myself? In fact that’s a key part of the recipe. Be kind to yourself!

Wow, this kindness stuff is pretty good mojo. Already in this post I’ve said I laughed, What a hoot!, I enjoyed it, It’s really fun, and …things get pretty amazing. It feels good and I’m sure it’s good for my blood pressure.

Why don’t I just keep doing it after Kindness week? Shouldn’t every week be kindness week?

Week 15 – Insight and Insights

Insight

-I love what Haanel says in lesson 15 of the Master Key about Insight;

  • It must be exercised,
  • It enables us to be prepared for the obstacles which we shall meet, and
  • It’s absolutely essential for the development of any great achievement

As my insight needs exercised, here are some insights of mine.

-I’m always a bit bemused at how profoundly the simplest common sense idea strikes me. I’m a reasonably intelligent human being. Why does, “Keep the main thing, the main thing.” sound different to me when I hear it from Mark Januszewski? Yet it does and it is. I now hear it in my brain and hear myself saying it to others. Hmmmm… Keep them coming Mark!

-It’s Week 15 of this Master Key Experience and I don’t know where the time has gone. Although I’ve developed new habits and reduced/eliminated others, I still spend a fair amount of my time doing the tasks and working to improve. It seems the more I learn, the more I want to learn.

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-There was a time when I was up to date on all current events, the local police blotter, the political landscape, every tiny detail of what my co-workers were assigned to and many other “very important” things that were going on around me. You see I’m kind of an information hound. Through the changes brought on by the Master Key Experience I’ve learned to focus on the things that bring be closer to my Definite Major Purpose

-Happily, the changes in me are evident to me even though my old habits pop up from time-to-time. Even though I’m still working on some I still see progress. I can see that this will now be a lifelong process for me. It’s embedded into everything I do.

-I’ve become much more observant of what happens around me, my reactions, my thoughts. and my attitudes. Because of that my “gatekeeper” has become highly vigilant and rejects poisonous thoughts at the entrance. Any that linger there are dealt with using the law of substitution. I other words, a positive, pleasant or uplifting thought is substituted right away as we can’t think of two things at once.

-I’ve come a long way and have a long way to go. I admire how far my fellow travelers have come. They’ve inspired me and befriended me. There’s no doubt I’m better for the experience and I get better every day. Thank you!

-I’m thankful for all who’ve crossed my path

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy.

Week 11 – My persistence gets an upgrade.

Persistence

I’ve always said I’m nothing if not persistent and it’s true but… recently I’ve realized there’s a difference between persistence and not giving up. It’s the simple idea that hits us right between the eyes. Sometimes when we refuse to give up we’re still just waiting for something to happen, for conditions to be “just right”, for that big break or quantum leap. We figure that if we just hang in there…our ship will come in. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be.

When confronted with this difference I had to wonder, is that what  I’ve been  doing? I really had to percolate on this a little. The answer(s) aren’t horrible but they also aren’t the “hero’s journey” I hoped they would be. I realized that I have persisted and stayed the course in the past and that’s a good thing. I have many successes and memories as a result. On the other hand my persistence hasn’t always been focused, consistent and the effort lacked the urgency of a drowning man. When those ingredients were present the successes and blessings were there too. All-in-all the news is good. I know how to do it and now I recognize what to do. The truth is if I’m going to get the most out of my God-given talents I must persist with focus and purpose. For those familiar with the parable of the talents in the New Testament you know this is a responsibility.

In The Greatest Salesman in the World (by Og Mandino) there’s a sentence repeated over and over in scroll 3, “I persist until I succeed.” It sounds simple, don’t give up, right? That’s what I used to think and it’s partially true but there’s more. It’s also about the consistent effort with a real purpose, a sense of urgency, a burning desire if you will. We can all think of times in life when we had that burning desire to win, be justified or achieve something against the odds and confidants who counseled us to accept our lot in life. That purpose is what provides the focus and drive to the effort. Once I figured out my primary drivers my purpose came back into focus. It hadn’t been far off but was scattered and lurking in the shadows. Now it’s plastered all over my home.

I’m on the cusp. I’m much better at being the observer and taking a bird’s eye view of what’s going on around me. That helps me persist when my old habits and time wasters break through. It’s also why I understand my classmates when they write of backsliding, missed assignments and confusion. I understand and identify with the sentiments but won’t speak them or write them into my reality. I persist in being the observer and my gatekeeper is on guard against defeat. I persist until I succeed!